Tuesday Friday! As you know, the past week (and a half or so) has been rocky, so this week’s Note to a Follower is late. Grace, I apologize and sincerely thank you for your patience. My letter to you is mostly a response to your post on mental health. I hope this finds you well. ❤
As a reminder, here is the schedule for 100 Notes for 100 Followers:
19 September – Rachel – done
26 September – AfroIrish – done
3 October – Cindy – done
10 October – Shaz – done
17 20 October – Grace – done
24 October – Jules
31 October – Rachel (Shed52)
7 November – Little Lion
Four pages from a Moleskine journal, letter is in black pen. Doodles include a flowers, a to-do list that says “BREATHE”, and a simple diamond shape with a scene of sun and clouds inside. The letter reads:
Grace, thank you so much for your patience. This has been a rough week for my family — my great gramps passed, and we got some other truly heartbreaking news that isn’t mine to share. So… it’s been hard, emotional, tiring. And I’m sorry that my note to you is not only late, but mopey and disjointed, too.
I read your post about your mental health, and I would like to impart some “wisdom” (read: I have some thoughts that may come across as preachy, and I’m sorry in advance).
- Talk to your school counselor. They may be able to help you establish school/work/life balance. They can also help you with job and college apps, and with thinking about your next steps.
- There is no Big Thing to wait for. Society makes us think that childhood (or high school or college) is simultaneously The Best Time and only A Stepping Stone. But that’s wrong. There are good memories to be had at every age, every stage. There is no Big Thing at the end of these stepping stones. So… What I’m saying is, breathe. You’re exactly where you should be. You’re okay, and you’re doing great.
- Make some lists! When I’m overwhelmed, I make lists. I start with a list of what needs to be done that day (everything, even things like “shower”). This helps me organize and prioritize. Maybe make a list of colleges (or a spreadsheet to include costs, locations, etc. that you want to note). Maybe include, in your to-do-today list, some time for you: read 10 pages, draw for 30 minutes, make an elaborate dessert snack… anything you enjoy that isn’t work/school related.
- Find a place to spend your free time and be productive. (It sounds like being at home stresses you out… I get that 100%.) Free/cheap places include libraries, book shops, coffee places, fast food restaurants… Many have wifi.
- You are most important. More than your grades, that college app, your blog posts. If you list your tasks and you only have time for either one 30-minute episode at the end of your day or filling out another college/job app… watch the episode. Take care of yourself.
- Make sure you sleep. It’s part of/a continuation of point #5. I spent too many years sleeping way too little… Don’t do it. Sleep is important for taking care of you.
Four pages of preaching! Yikes. Sorry, Grace… Your mental (and physical) health is important, so I got carried away. I hope you’re feeling better since your September 25th journal entry.
Take care, Grace.